#1317: Fidelity

fi·del·i·ty

   [fi-del-i-tee, fahy-]  Show IPA

noun, plural -ties.

1.

strict observance of promises, duties, etc.: a servant'sfidelity.

2.

loyalty: fidelity to one's country.

3.

conjugal faithfulness.

4.

adherence to fact or detail.

5.

accuracy; exactness: The speech was transcribed with greatfidelity.

6.

Audio, Video. the degree of accuracy with which sound orimages are recorded or reproduced.

Recently, I have heard many stories about infidelity.
Actually, one just have to look around and can find cheating couples everywhere.
What happened to "everlasting love"?
Why can't people just stay true to ONE person anymore?
I think the problem lies with the society we live in - the warped minds disregarding fidelity and the uncontrollable resistance to temptation.
I'm disheartened. :(


But in times of gloominess, I came across this article which sort of gave me hope that there are good men around after all!

Translation of the essence of the text:
"Extra-marital affair? Every man would want it! However, what lies behind the temptation is fatal. A brief moment of thrill and pleasure would cost you your career and family which you have painstakingly built over years."

VERY VERY TRUE but some people just don't listen and then comes the regret. 

I had a HTHT session with a close friend a few days back. 

She highlighted the common phenomenon of having broken families nowadays and I couldn't agree more.

Now, it is all about "合则来，不合则散。"

No one bothers about "till death do us part" anymore.

Plus, women are empowered these days with the ability to carve out a career of her own, and no longer restrained to being a grumpy homemaker anymore. 

This is the part I do not like about modern women.

Yes, I adore being a 小女人，在家里相夫教子 but such women would be perceived as weak in the society we live today.
Ahhhh, I so wanna go back in time and live in the 60s.


We then talked about our families and how blessed we are with loving parents.
On Tuesday while I was out the whole day and night, my parents had a huge quarrel.
I came back home on Wednesday only to find out from my sisters.
I then told my dad and mum SEPARATELY that there is no point in them cold-warring with each other because their combined ages almost make up a hundred.
Then, I left them as they are. Haha!
I expected a further two to three days of cold war but to my pleasant surprise, they made up today (Thursday).
YAY! (Y)
I guess, once they have walked such a long way together, regardless of how huge the quarrel is, the foundation of their relationship is already so strong nothing could easily break them up?
That was my assumption and it sort of proved to be correct. :p
In addition, I have never spent a day without thinking how a woman like my mum can tame a Casanova like my dad.
My dad used to be a "player" in his younger days and I don't know, he simply became more responsible after he met my mum so... I'm very moved by this fact and this isolated example just gave me faith that we women, can actually change men (although aiya, I think it is highly impossible nowadays. so contradicting :S)



On the contrary, I have this friend who got married at 18 (shotgun).
At the age of 23 now, she is experiencing problems in her marriage because of her husband's infidelity.
She has yet to collect "evidence" to prove it but trust me when I say a woman's instinct is damn right.
Not that I think her marriage woes are entirely attributed to her marrying at a young age and not based on love but a child who was about to pop, but that has to constitute a significant part right?
And men these days are just... sigh, 男人变心，是说变就变的。
Okay to be fair, women can have a change of heart too, BUT not that easily done.
Fair enough?

Anyway, do watch these 3 clips. TILL THE END. 

The video isn't smooth, so just listen to the audio. 




When he finally regrets, it is too late.


If I were the female lead, I would say the same thing too: "可是，我们回不去了。"
If my other half were to betray me, I would never hesitate to leave, even if I have kids because, if he can do it one time, there's no guarantee he won't do it the second time. 
I have seen tooooo many of such examples. 


PS: But, I'm so soft-hearted. Ottoke?!! Hahaha! 
PPS: That's all for now, folks! Just taking a break from mugging for my mid-terms to write an "insightful" (IN INVERTED COMMAS HAHA!); albeit a cranky post. Back to books now! 

#1316: Bangs, again!

I actually wanted to grow my fringe long and part them in the centre, some sort of like...this.

But Huiqi said I look toot.
TOOT MEH? I think cute leh!

Anyway, the following are photos I took back in late August where my fringe was still long.


See? I'm trying to work the "centre-parting" style here!


However, I went to cut bangs yesterday.
Probably lessened several years of age because bangs NEVER fail to make anyone look juvenile.



I predict this fringe is gonna grow out soon and turn into side swept bangs, again.
Ahhh, high maintenance.
WHY MUST HAIR GROW?
Can't it stay this way forever?
Saves all the styling. Pffft.

#1315: 那些年，我们一起追的女孩。

After watching the trailer, I got SO MESMERIZED by it I was once depressed by the fact that I THOUGHT it would only air in Taiwan.
I found out a while later that it would open in cinemas in SG come next month! *excited*
I'll be sure to chiong to the cinema!

One fine day, my colleague brought this (refer to picture below) to work and proudly flashed it before my very eyes.



Ahhhhhhh, I told myself I die die also must buy!
What's up with the Singlish, seriously.
ANYWAY, so I went to the head office of Popular bookstore which is very conveniently located just opposite my campus and wanted to buy the book UNTIL... the sales assistant told me that it went out of stock.
I gave her an extremely sad & despondent face and she very kindly volunteered to help me check out the other nearby outlets for stock.
Just when I was thinking of how to plan my route to wherever the book may be, she returned with THIS (refer to picture above) and told me a customer had given up on her reservation.
WEEEEEEE~ Am I lucky or what?!!

I chanced upon the movie's theme song and has been addicted to it since.
Very catchy tune.

PS: This is my VERY FIRST CHINESE BOOK BOUGHT! Because this story is based on a true story, I feel it adds more human feelings as compared to fiction. Also, I like how real life stories get translated to films onscreen. Major plus point of this book? It has a sad ending. I used to think that my life can be made into a movie as well - there are too much drama sufficient to translate into entertainment haha!

PPS: I don't know if it is the same with everyone but I know there are certain people like me who derives pleasure from opening a new book, and taking ridiculously good care of it (like, wrapping it nicely round the edges) and...refuses to lend it out. HAHAHA. I don't know, I can pretty much let people borrow my stuff, just NOT my books. Weird. That's why I really look up to those selfless people who are fine with lending their books out to interested readers. By the way, that's how I got to read the Harry Potter series - borrow the books from friends! 

#1314: It's Octoberrrrr!!!

My aunt, (very rich aunt by the way), just called and told me she brewed bird's nest for me AND ME ONLY.
Wah I literally squealed over the phone and expressed how touched I was.
It must be my mum who tattled tales to her, oh, the normality of it. Haha!

I had the worst last two weeks of September - there was not a single day of rest in between.
Everyday passed by like *bam bam bam* - lack of sleep + lack of nutrition = ultimate cuiness physically, mentally and aesthetically.
I look into the mirror everyday and I have realised that my cheeks are kind of hollow and sunk in.
Spells a major OH NO.
Yes yes I know I have been overworked and overly-malnutritioned which is why I'm gonna take unpaid leave from work from mid Nov to the end of December.
FYI, I wouldn't be in town for almost all of December.
I'm flying off the day after my last paper. ;)

SO, yes... all these talk about me getting shagged out everyday and stuff, you may start to wonder why I choose to work so hard.
I mean, I can choose NOT to work and be a full-time student.
That sounds really appealing huh, how I wish that could really happen... BUT.
There's always a BUT, isn't it? Haha.
I just feel that there's always a "give and take", "in and out" and etc, something like a cycle?
I'm already 22, gotta be self-sufficient right?
Can't possibly still ask for "allowance" or "pocket money" from my parents right?
And I firmly believe that I have to work for something that I want or achieve.
If I work hard, I play hard too so I ain't torturing myself like a maniac. :)
It's just those stressful, depressing days of chiong-ing projects or working endlessly that make me lose my sanity for a moment, just for a moment before I pick myself up again.
I love life too much that I won't think of ending it haha so don't worry, I'm not suicidal when I'm down HAHAHA!
I couldn't have done all this by myself, of course.
I have the support of my family and dear friends, friends who are similar "workaholics" like me (eg. See Thor Hui Qi) and their encouragement never fail to bring a w i d e grin on my face. :D
The only thing that pisses me off are those who are not understanding enough in their capacity as my friends and grumble about my busy schedule.
I look around and realises that I'm not the only busy one!
I haven't seen Amina since... July?!!
Yiwen? Worse, since the early part of this year.
Shishi? Hoho, since January?
But I know I'm always in their hearts with their occasional heartwarming texts awww.

Busy as a bee I may be, I feel that I'm truly living life to the fullest.
I really think I am, as compared to many of my time-wasting peers who waste their lives away doing nothing constructive.
Furthermore, I gain so much knowledge while working and I get to bridge friendships with my colleagues who are essentially my "life teachers".
Because they are aunties, they are like my "mothers" who will take care of me with unconditional love.
For instance, I get occasional perks like free gong cha, free yummy food and frequent suppers a.k.a bonding sessions after work.
Sometimes, I get so touched seeing the way they protect me from disgusting ah peks at work.
Of course, not forgetting that they have gone through so much in their lives, they actually impart life lessons to me.

As you can see, I don't even have the time to nua.
Yes, I would crave for some nua-time but I know that will come in December so why not work hard now so that I can enjoy winter on the mountains in Phayao and then shop till I drop (again) in Bangkok when December comes?
Yes, this may sound like pushing myself to the limit for October (everyday is filled except 20th October) but I know when to stop if I really cannot take the heat.


This was what September had been. This hung in front of my bed so whenever my family wanted to know my schedule, like if I had school or work, they would refer to it.

Damn comical. The situation would be like:
Mum: Min, are you free to....
Me (cutting her before she finishes her sentence): Mum, check the calendar.
Mum:........................
Me: HAHAHAHAHAHA.

Oh yes, she said something that moved me just a day back.
Seeing how tired out I was by school and projects and work, she actually told me to stop working and concentrate fully on studying instead.
Woah, that was like a total surprise cos' she has always been encouraging me to chiong while I'm still young.
Seems like the thinness of my face works well. Haha!

September 2011 has been a very memorable month (I almost lost my life. Talk more about it next time).
Nonetheless, hello there, October! 

PS: My mum just came back from my aunt's and brought back the bird's nest as promised!
Someone scream "GOOD LIFE" pleaseeee!